Week 5

 The rules of attraction. In class this week we talked about that goes through our mind when we find someone attractive. A very interesting topic that, yet again, I have never thought of. We talked about the things that are obvious first such as physical attractiveness, opposites attract, has similar genes to your mother or father, like you, there personality, and their financial stability is what we normally find attractive in someone that we are looking for. These are very common to go through our mind when we are first attracted to someone. Our mind tends to go through filters when finding someone attractive. Such as physical attractiveness, and personality etc. There are a few filters that we do or use that we don’t even realize. Without knowing it we tend to be more attracted to people that live close to us, we don’t tend to go and find someone we usually look for people that are closer to us. This totally makes sense to me, our relationship with someone would be much more difficult if you lived far away. Long distance relationships don’t tend to work out well anyways. We are also more attracted to people with similar interests, this might seem obvious, but I think we overlook it sometimes. Even with people that we are not attracted to tend to want to hang out with them more if they have similar interests because you’re able to relate better which allows you to get along better as well, naturally this is just how we are. Similar friends are also ones that we don’t realize. I firmly believe that if you are friends with someone before you both try dating then things go much smoother, and the relationship is much stronger. My girlfriend and I were friends for a few months before we started dating. We have been dating for 5 months and things are very strong. I think having that prior relationship was able to help us grow closer when we decided to start dating. When she and I first became friends, we weren't planning on dating each other, that’s another reason why things between us work so well, we didn’t have that awkward time of getting to know each other.We are naturally attracted to people with personalities that match ours as well. It’s the same reasoning as similar interests, we enjoy being around people with the same interests. We later talked about the difference between dating and just “hanging out”, and the importance of not just “hanging out” and becoming casual with the person that you’re interested in. There is a talk called “Dating versus Hanging Out” by Elder Dallin H. Oks, and he talks about the s “Ps” of dating which are Paired off, Planned, and paid for. Paired off means that’s it's just you two or he focuses when talking is just you two, a little bit of one-on-one time to help you guys get to know each other. Planned, when a date is planned things can go smoother and it’s more special for both of you, also if you don’t have a plan, you just end up hanging out and your date doesn’t think you care or you put little to no effort into the date. Lastly paid for, when you pay for your date, it helps show that you care, you want them to be there. They can appreciate someone that is willing to pay for them. With these “Ps” that Elder Oks talks about were able to understand the difference between dating and just hanging out. We should stray away from hanging out because it lowers expectations. When dating someone you want to wow them. I was able to learn a lot this week and I hope this paper was able to help you understand dating too! Thanks for reading!