Week 6

 

Getting engaged to someone is a very big step in a relationship. How can you show that person that you are truly committed to them? Being committed to someone is very important in a marriage, showing them true love and compassion is a necessary commitment. In class this week we were able to talk about what commitment means and the importance of a proper engagement. Going about marriage was very different years ago. In today's day we seem to talk about marriage, plan, and get engaged based on popularity. Making sure the engagement gets recorded and people can tell you have cute it is and things like that, that’s not how the engagement should be. An engagement should be something personal between the two and something special that they are able to look back on later in the marriage.  

My teacher was able to share with us how he proposed to his wife. He told us that many ideas passed through his mind of what he wanted to do, he wanted it to be meaningful and he wanted to let me know that he is truly committed to her. He was able to come up with the idea of quilting a quilt himself with direction from his mother and grandmother, it took him a long time to make this quit and get it how he wanted. She was able to give it to her and its Saied “will you marry me” on it. Making the quilt was able to show her that he was committed to her, the blanket was a sign of committee meant because he spent a lot of time and hard work on it. Which helped her realize what their marriage would be like based off the engagement, something that was meaningful and special to both.  

Therefore, the engagement and how it's done is very important in the start of a marriage. When times get tough in the relationship, women tend to look back on the engagement and if they can remember the commitment it helps in the tough time. This can sometimes make or break some marriages. Also, personally when I take my time and really plan something it has a deeper meaning to me, I’m able to cherish it more and have more of a connection to it. Engagement is obviously a very important part of the getting married process. We were also able to talk about the importance of the wedding itself. Planning the wedding tends to be very stress full for everyone involved and it involves lots of time and money to make it such a special day for everyone. 

We talked a lot about weddings and how they are more complicated and stressful than they should be. Normally a wedding takes a lot of time and money, depending on where the money comes from, it can be a factor as well. People who allow or have their parents pay for the wedding tend to have problems with their parents later down the line. The parents tend to hold it over them, saying that they need or should do this because the parents paid for the wedding and they kind of “ow them”. And if the couple getting married pays for the wedding themselves, they tend to have more problems later down the time financially and have problems that way. One of the best ways to make a wedding happen is to try and get each other's family more involved, allowing them to help with food or music or decorations can help the family feel useful and it will make the wedding lots cheaper down the line. I am not sure about any of this stuff because I've never been engaged or have had a wedding although it all makes sense. As we show our person how much we care and how much we are willing to give to them I don’t see why the marriage wouldn’t be successful. I hope you were able to learn something and thanks for reading!