Week 12. Last blog!!!

 Today in class we talked about what typically causes divorce and how it affects the children and people involved. We started by talking about what are common causes of divorce, we were able to discuss quite a few. One of the first things that were brought up was “falling out of love” which I thought was the most common, two people that loved each other before but over time they have lost those feelings that they felt before. We also mentioned “lack of communication”, one of the people would start getting mad or frustrated at the other and bottle it up inside, not expressing how they feel, which prevented them from growing as a couple. We talked about a few other reasons such as cheating, pornography, and money problems but one thing that we talked about surprised me a little or I guess I've never thought about it, Substance abuse. I know that drinking could lead to events that could cause divorce, but we talked about weed and what it does to the person and their brain. According to my teacher he said that back in the day when weed was first a thing it was not as strong as it is today. Today weed is much stronger and takes a bigger toll on the body. If a person partakes of the more expensive weed, they feel trippy for up to 6 hours, but they are still out of it for 24 hours after the use, which messes with the brain which would affect the people around them because they cannot function as well as they could before. This has become more of a problem the stronger it gets. I was able to learn about how 70% of people that file for divorce think that it would have been better for them if they were able to work things out, I bet they think that because its though our hard times that we become stronger so if they were able to work though the hard things that led to their divorce then they would be much closer and most likely have a stronger love for each other. My teacher also mentioned that 70% or men after being divorced for two years they get remarried. We were able to talk about this during class, a lot of people thought that it was because men where not as capable of living on their own, they were too dependent on their ex-wife. But I think that depending on the reasons of their divorce the man just needs the companion ship and that I'm sure that if she was willing to make things work then he would be on board. But I don’t really know anything. I have never been married those are just my thoughts. We also talked about those men getting re married has a lot to do if they had kids, the kids need both a fatherly and motherly figure in their life and without they are missing out on certain lessons in their life that they probably won't learn tell later down the line. Couples that have children and get divorced have a big impact on their lives, they grow up thinking that their parents are so happy and the only thing causing problems is the child so many children tend to take balm, which is very hard on the kid. Overall, I think that it depends on the situation for when divorce is really needed but I think that if people can work though their problems, then they would be happier and appreciate each other more and more down the line, marriage is such a beautiful thing, and we shouldn't just throw it away when times get hard. Thank you.